You know the routine. You over-give. You people-please. You stay too long. You ignore what you already knew. This session is where you name the self-abandonment pattern, locate where it lives in your body, and see the exact gap between where you are and what you actually want.
This live interactive session is where you create your own Self-Abandonment Pattern Analysis and walk away with it in your email.
In this session you’ll identify your ideal outcome. Name what you’re repeating. Name what it’s costing you. Locate the pattern in your body. See where the self-abandonment specifically starts, what feeds it, and the exact gap between where you are and where you want to be. Get clear on the next steps that close that gap.
You’ll leave with your own Self-Abandonment Pattern Analysis delivered to your email. When you’re ready for the deeper work in a Pattern Decode Group or a 1:1 Pattern Clarity Session with Shane, you’ll bring it into the room so we start from what you already surfaced.
Self-abandonment was the dominant theme in the women’s data across The Modern Dating Pattern Report. It appeared with such consistency and specificity that Shane wrote a second report focused entirely on it: Why Women Are Losing Themselves in the Pursuit of Love (Part II of the Modern Dating Pattern Report).
Across nine months and 561 women, the same pattern kept surfacing. Not confusion about dating. Exhaustion from it. Not the kind that comes from bad dates. The kind that comes from giving too much of yourself for too long and not being sure when it started or how to stop.
“They didn’t lose themselves all at once. They traded pieces of themselves, slowly, for the feeling of being chosen.” The Modern Dating Pattern Report, Part II
That finding is why this room exists. It’s the curated space for women who already know something is off and are ready to name it precisely enough to interrupt it.
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If you want to understand why you keep abandoning yourself in the pursuit of love, and you need just a little more information before you take the next step, start here. This is where you learn how to end the snowball of losing yourself as soon as you find love.
Start your intakeFinish this sentence: The version of me I lose in relationships is _____, and the version I’m trying to get back is _____.
“The version of me I lose in relationships is my energy and ability to trust my instincts, and the version I’m trying to get back is my fun loving ways and trust.”
Cheryl
“Too much giving made me lose myself. I want to learn to put myself first and find someone who nourishes me rather than depletes me.”
Julie
“The version of me I lose in relationships is valuable... self-esteem... I am a trans woman.”
Eric
“The version I’m trying to get back is the confident one; the authentic one.”
Deborah
Women who know they’re giving themselves away and are ready to name it precisely enough to interrupt it. Whether the pattern shows up as people-pleasing before a relationship begins, over-giving inside one, staying too long after it stops working, or ignoring what you already knew, this room is for the women who see the pattern and are done paying its cost.
Because self-abandonment was the dominant theme in the women’s data across 561 responses in The Modern Dating Pattern Report. A curated women-only room was the honest response to what the research revealed. This isn’t a statement about who else struggles with the pattern. It’s a design choice to serve the community the data most specifically named.
A live 60-minute Interactive Self-Abandonment Pattern Analysis with Shane Campbell. You’ll complete your own analysis in the room, live, guided. When you submit inside the session, your personalized Self-Abandonment Pattern Analysis is emailed to you immediately.
No. It’s a live pattern analysis. You’ll identify your ideal outcome, what you’re repeating, what it’s costing you, and where the self-abandonment lives in your body. Leave with your own written analysis you can use in the deeper work.
Your Self-Abandonment Pattern Analysis arrives in your email immediately after you complete and submit it in the session. You’ll bring it into the Pattern Decode Group or a 1:1 Pattern Clarity Session with Shane when you’re ready to go deeper.
Yes. This session is the precursor for women ready to sample the work and get direction on their next step. Free doesn’t mean less considered. It means this is the room where you decide which path with Shane is yours.
Submit the intake form. Your answers give us a read on you and anything we need to curate the room.